You're the one who filed. You know you made the right decision. But here you are, crying in your car after drop-off, feeling a grief so heavy it physically hurts, and then feeling confused about why you're grieving something you chose to end.

What research says about helping your kids thrive through the transition (and how to manage the guilt that's keeping you up at night)

Peaceful co-parenting after divorce often requires an inner shift. This post explores how separating your ex from his role as a father can soften conflict and create more calm for your children and yourself.

Peaceful co-parenting after divorce did not come easily for me. In this post, I share how I moved from high conflict to real calm, and why the work started (and ends) with me.

It hits you when you're watching your daughter's soccer game and you see the "intact" families on the bleachers. When you're driving carpool and your son asks why you and Dad are angry at each other all the time. When you're standing in your kitchen making dinner and realize you've been holding your breath for the past twenty minutes, bracing for him to walk through the door: Am I about to destroy my children's lives if I get divorced? Here's what the research actually shows:

How to transform a toxic co-parenting relationship into peaceful collaboration (even with a difficult ex) Women constantly ask me how I do it. They want to know why I choose to hang out with my exes and their partners even when the kids aren't around. How I handle the complexity of different households, diverging dreams, and so many cooks in the kitchen. Before I answer, I share that Paul is just one of my exes. The romantic relationships with both of my kids' dads ended year