The Hidden Cost of Holding It Together Through Divorce There is a version of falling apart that nobody sees coming. It does not look like crying in the school parking lot or sending a 2am text you will regret. It looks like you. On time. Composed. Handling it. You show up to pickup without drama. You answer the co-parenting texts promptly. When the schedule shifts, you adapt. At work, you are still the person people count on. From the outside, you are the picture of a woman w

She had the kind of life that looks impressive from the outside. Senior leader at a Fortune 500 company. High-performing. Composed. Raising her daughter. Handling it all. And her marriage was ending. She came to me stressed at a 10 out of 10. Waking at 4am with her mind racing one to two nights a week. Losing up to 20 hours every week to co-parenting drama and rumination. Her focus at work had dropped to a 5 out of 10. She was snapping at her daughter. She could not stay pres

Peaceful co-parenting after divorce often requires an inner shift. This post explores how separating your ex from his role as a father can soften conflict and create more calm for your children and yourself.

How to transform a toxic co-parenting relationship into peaceful collaboration (even with a difficult ex) Women constantly ask me how I do it. They want to know why I choose to hang out with my exes and their partners even when the kids aren't around. How I handle the complexity of different households, diverging dreams, and so many cooks in the kitchen. Before I answer, I share that Paul is just one of my exes. The romantic relationships with both of my kids' dads ended year